The linguistic traces of deception in online dating profiles

30 Apr

With this many local gay men on meeting sites, a quest to meet at least one new friend should be easy, I thought.What I had yet to realize was that the world of online dating is disassociated from reality -- really disassociated.So, I joined and joined, with the intention of meeting a few people who could be friends—just friends.Shortly thereafter, though, fascinated by what I was seeing, I started joining sites for research’s sake, even sites I knew would hold no interest.Online dating is often lauded for improving the dating experience by giving singles large pools of potential partners from whom to choose.This experiment investigates how the number of choices online daters are given...It's this pervasiveness, combined with the centrality to what it means to be a human, the fact that we can tell the truth or make something up, that has fascinated people throughout history. And we have Confucius in the East who was really concerned with sincerity, not only that you walked the walk or talked the talk, but that you believed in what you were doing. Now my first professional encounter with deception is a little bit later than these guys, a couple thousand years. Once you get my cell phone number, you can literally be in touch with me 24 hours a day. Chinese Water Army refers to thousands of people in China that are paid small amounts of money to produce content. In North America, we call this Astroturfing, and Astroturfing is very common now. We see this especially with product reviews, book reviews, everything from hotels to whether that toaster is a good toaster or not.I was a customs officer for Canada back in the mid-'90s. And so these lies are being used by people to create a buffer, like the butler used to do, between us and the connections to everybody else. They use ambiguity that comes from using technology. Now, looking at these three reviews, or these three types of deception, you might think, wow, the Internet is really making us a deceptive species, especially when you think about the Astroturfing, where we can see deception brought up to scale.

She said all I want is white roses.” Although the story climaxed just as T’eo was up for the Heisman Trophy, the biggest individual award in college football, he claims the mantle of victim, not hoaxer.

Meeting new people and engaging in flirtatious banter are my favorite things about dating.

In all honesty, the initial “getting to know you phase” was what I missed most when I was married.

Let me tell you, it has been a fantastic month for deception. In fact, a lot of research shows that we all lie once or twice a day, as Dave suggested. I learned a lot about deception while doing my duty here in customs, one of which was that most of what I thought I knew about deception was wrong, and I'll tell you about some of that tonight. Almost every aspect of human communication's been changed, and of course that's had an impact on deception.

And I'm not even talking about the American presidential race. So it's about now, suggests that most of us should have lied. How many of you, in the last 24 hours — think back — have told a little fib, or a big one? No, that looked good, it was about two thirds of you. But even since just 1995, '96, the way we communicate has been completely transformed. Let me tell you a little bit about a couple of new deceptions we've been tracking and documenting. Here's another one: "Sorry I didn't respond to you earlier. He wrote very, very positive reviews about himself. Now this Sock Puppet stuff isn't actually that new.